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The Art of Adjustment

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the view from here.   I was standing behind her at her dad’s funeral, a respectful distance from her–not in her personal space, but within earshot. This is what pastors call “the ministry of presence”–being quiet but visible, being close to the grief but not in it, except for the way we are all in it, on account of feeling the emotion and the hearts and the stories in the…

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5 Ways to Stay Sane Right Now

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My friend has a special noise she makes when she’s overwhelmed. It’s somewhere between a sigh and a groan and a moan, and it sounds like BLEHHHARRRRGGGG. I wish I could send you all this sound that you can press like a button every time you feel overworked, under appreciated, out of time/money/energy/joy—so all of us around the world overwhelmed in this season can collectively sigh-groan-moan together and take a…

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Telling the whole story

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I never wanted to be a counselor.  My younger self was drawn to “big things”, purposeful things, things that take strategy and action plans and big steps. But in the way life often happen, I ended up with a counseling degree and an office with a big couch and a fluffy chair and a soothing paint color, spending hours doing the work that was quiet, hidden away and almost never felt…

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Your One Thing

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Once upon a time, I was pregnant for what must have been decades. The first two were less than two years apart, and then we gave it a little time but still managed to spend a year with three kids under five. Three kids under five might not seem like a lot, but it’s enough to have people stare at you in the grocery store, to raise a ruckus in the fast…

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When Wonder Finds You

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This is a story about finding wonder, and losing it, and finding it again. This story takes place in an unlikely place (a golf course) at an unlikely time (mid-morning on a Monday). It was early spring, and a neighbor had just tipped me off that the course is closed on Monday, and the grounds crew looks the other way if you decide to run on those beautiful cart paths, and so…

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Post-Retreat Reality

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  Hey friends, on the heels of un/defined, I wanted to republish this post I wrote a while ago about getting back to reality after a “mountain top” experience at a retreat. Hope it’s helpful to you!  Drawing back on my decade-ish of retreat experience, this is what I know: I know that what has happened in our hearts this weekend is not as important as what will happen in…

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Running in the Dark

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This morning I dragged myself out of bed to run. And by run, I mean stagger through the dark and call it exercise. It was soupy-fog-dark, a dark that made even my feet feel far away, swallowing the dim beam of my flashlight before it ever had a chance to shine. Faith is running in the dark. It’s putting one foot in front of the other even when you can…

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The one word trick.

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Quick. Let’s play a game. When I write a word, you think of the next immediate word that comes to mind. Ready? Here we go. PEANUT BUTTER.  did you say sandwich? jelly? sticky? yum? gross? Lots of words come to mind, don’t they? Let’s try another one. Ready? WINTER.  did you say snow? cold? dreadful? (oh wait, that’s just me writing on a dreary, wet, dark day. bleh.) Last one….

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enough.

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  I strung the Christmas lights in the rain. In the dark. Strung might be a strong word for what amounted to wrapping four strands of lights around our stair railings. When I stepped back to check out my work, my son called the finished product “chaotic.” But God’s been teaching me about enough this year. Enough, as in “not perfect”. Good Enough. Bright Enough. Done Enough. Enough doesn’t come easily to me. I don’t like enough. I…

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